All marriages have conflict from time to time. Sometimes the conflicts can turn a relationship into negative cycles that are difficult to break.
I have received training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) with a goal to help couples grow closer by helping them understand their fight cycle—the emotions and wounds that keep them stuck and disconnected. I will help you and your partner make sense of the way you argue, unravel and foster a new way of relating, heal hurts and create a safe haven.
My goal for couples includes helping each partner become more aware of the emotions driving the negative cycle and to de-escalate the cycle so both feel safe to better communicate their needs. Never is EFT about identifying one partner or spouse as “the problem.” Instead, the negative cycle of conflict is the problem to be addressed and changed.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
The objective of my marriage counseling program is for both partners to learn to better manage their emotions and develop more loving interactions. More important is for both to learn how to speak in kinder and more vulnerable ways. As a result couples learn to create stronger emotional attachments. Then they are in a much better place to solve old problems and face future challenges in a mutually supportive way.
Never Too Late For Saving Marriages
No matter how bad your marriage and relationship may seem, we are convinced that with work and direction, you can save it. Even a marriage that is about to hit bottom can be revived with the right guidance. Frustratingly, we find that many couples have received unhelpful or ineffective marriage counseling. Well-meaning therapists provide advice about negotiating conflict and encourage the focus to be on improving their communication.
I won’t just have the goal of simply teaching better communications or conflict resolution. Rather than how you should handle your disagreements, I will teach you how to engage with each other when you’re not fighting. Learning how to meet each other’s needs and develop positive regard for the other, sets up for how you both will face conflict.
Strong Friendship Equals Great Marriage
The couples who have gone through EFT counseling report feeling they have a better handle on where they get off track and are able to catch themselves before they end up deep in a negative cycle. As they get further along in the process, many tell me that they feel closer than they’ve ever felt, and are able to have conversations they never dreamed they’d be able to have without fighting. Their sex lives improve, and they feel like better parents, partners, bosses, and employees. All this is due to finding a deeper and safer connection with their partner.
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The ultimate objective of my marriage counseling program is for both partners to learn to better manage their emotions and develop more loving interactions. More important is for both to learn how to speak in kinder and more vulnerable ways. As a result couples learn to create stronger emotional attachments. Then they are in a much better place to solve old problems and face future challenges in a mutually supportive way.
Call me today to setup an initial marriage counseling session. I can hear first hand the struggles you and your spouse are experiencing and then provide a road map of couples therapy to turn your relationship into the happier and more connection direction.