Couples CounselingDo you ever feel like you and your partner have the same argument over-and-over again? Find yourself stuck in the same relationship patterns no matter what the topic or issue? Does it feel like you end up with the same negative outcome, regardless of how many times you and your partner talk it through?
If so, you may be stuck in a negative cycle.
Very often couples get caught up in patterns of negative interactions, having the same fights over and over. They don’t like it, would like to change it, but don’t know how to talk about it. Over time they become less and less connected to one another, leaving them feeling frustrated and alone in the relationship.
Emotionally Focused Therapy helps you get unstuck from negative patterns and build secure bonds of love and trust. As this happens, you build confidence that you can truly count on each other. You both come to trust each other to “be there” during both the joyful and the difficult moments of life.
These new insights also help you make sense of what has been contributing to those patterns that pushed you away from each other. Understanding each other – and these patterns – in a new way will draw you closer to one another, facilitate healing and allow for new, fulfilling patterns of interaction to evolve between you.
No matter how bad your relationship may seem, we are convinced that with work and direction, you can save it. Even a relationship that is about to hit bottom can be revived with the right guidance. Frustratingly, we find that many couples have received unhelpful or ineffective couples counseling. Well-meaning therapists provide advice about negotiating conflict and encourage the focus to be on improving their communication.
Your therapist will help you and your partner de-escalate the negative loop you both get caught into and then to create more safety and space for you both to share the deeper parts of your inner world.
The goal is helping couples to trust each other more, be more open to one another, taking risks to reach for each other with their deeper needs—create that safety between them. The key questions that most partners need answered are, “Can I count on you being there when I need you?” and “Are you safe for me to show you my vulnerable self and needs?”
The ultimate objective of our couples counseling program is for both partners to learn to better manage their emotions and develop more loving interactions. More important is for both to learn how to speak in kinder and more vulnerable ways. As a result couples learn to create stronger emotional attachments. Then they are in a much better place to solve old problems and face future challenges in a mutually supportive way.
Call our center today to setup an initial couples counseling session. Your therapist will provide a road map of couples therapy to turn your relationship into the happier, safer, deeper, and more connection direction.