Kevin Leapley, MA, LPC, CSAT, BC-MHT
Sex Addiction Counseling and Couples Therapy is a second career for me. After my U.S. Air Force enlistment, I had a successful and fulfilling career in business management. My last “real job” was working for the Thomas Kinkade Company running a manufacturing and distribution operation.
My desire in becoming a counselor came out of my own individual and relationship recovery work and healing journey. That journey helped me find freedom and restoration for my marriage and for me from addiction.
I have a deep desire to help men and couples find their own restoration and a deeper intimate connection in the same way my past counselors have helped me and my wife.
I find great fulfillment and joy working with men that struggle with sexual addiction and porn addiction. I love what I do!
Sexual Addiction Counseling (CSAT)
I received specialized training in treating sexual addiction from Dr. Patrick Carnes and obtained Certification as a Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT). I did not just go to college or a training program and read about recovery from sexual addiction. I also personally lived “the life” and went through my own journey of recovery. Who is better able to help you than a counselor who knows what you are struggling with and also personally knows what it will take to heal?
I use Dr. Carnes’ 30-task model of recovery in working with men and I also use what I have learned through my own journey. I fully understand the struggle and what it will take to get set free from the addictive behaviors. I will never shame you or judge you. Clients often tell me that they feel safe with me and appreciate not only my training and knowledge but also that I too “lived the life.”
I work with clients to determine the underlying wounds or trauma that he is using the sex to numb, medicate, escape, and alleviate. Sexual addiction is not just about wanting more sex but rather it is a relational (attachment theory) and intimacy wound that began in early development. The “wound” is usually related to past abandonment, physical or emotional abuse, rejection, low self-worth, shame, and/or disconnection by parent, caregiver, family, and friends. The sexual behaviors have become a counterfeit-relationship that will never hurt him, leave him, or reject him. The goal is not simply to stop the sexual behaviors but to learn new ways to connect and trust others to meet his needs.
Note: If you are a person with a public persona and prefer increased privacy, please email me and we can discuss alternatives to an office visit.
Having been married for 30 years, I bring real life experience along with counseling expertise to each and every therapy session with you and your partner. I have a passion for helping couples find connection, passion, friendship, and love again. I work very hard to develop a caring, safe, and honest relationship with you.
I have trained extensively in, and continue to study, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an exciting research-based model of therapy that focuses on restoring relationships by strengthening core connections between loved ones.
I was drawn to Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) because of the research and focus on attachment as the main issue in couples’ distress. Studies show that EFT is the most effective way for couples to work through painful issues and find closeness again. EFT is based on the now proven fact that a strong and loving emotional connection is as basic a human need as food, shelter and sex; and that conflict with an intimate partner can trigger our deepest wounds and make us depressed and anxious.
The goals of Emotionally Focused Therapy include helping each partner become more aware of the emotions driving the negative cycle. Never is EFT about identifying one partner or spouse as “the problem.” EFT focuses on building safe, secure attachment and stopping those endless cycles of conflict…on stopping them, yes, but even more importantly on gaining confidence about how to repair and reconnect.
The objective of EFT is for both partners to learn to better manage their emotions and develop more loving interactions. More important is for both to learn how to speak in kinder and more vulnerable ways. As a result couples learn to create stronger emotional attachments. Then they are in a much better place to solve old problems and develop new solutions.
Every partner wants to know form their partner:
- do I matter to you?
- do you get me?
- do you care?
- can I turn to you and count on you being there for me?
- do you have my back?
- am I the person you really want or do you want someone else?
My Work With You
I believe each of us has been created for a purpose. My purpose is helping couples rediscover lasting love and a stronger bond. I guide struggling couples, who often have lost hope, back toward one another to a secure and solid relationship. My purpose and passion is also helping men find recovery and freedom from the bondage of sexual addiction. I don’t consider what I do “work” because I love it so much!
When we work together, whether you’re reading my articles on relationships or sex addiction recovery, signing up for a session, group, or a Hold Me Tight workshop, the first thing you’ll get from me is my strong commitment. Commitment to support you and your partner strengthen your marriage or guide you away from destructive addictive behaviors into a life worth living.
What you will experience from me is that I am 100% in your corner, always believing in the best of you and helping you when it gets painful and hard. Because it hard! Most everything worth achieving in life is difficult but I am here to cheer you on because you are worth it! I love being part of your healing journey!
I extensively study relationships, love, attachment and healing from the wounds of sex addiction. I highly prioritize continuing my training and learning to ensure I’m consistently giving my clients nothing but the best.
Online Counseling for Sexual Addiction
I also provide Online counseling for men struggling with sexual addiction (in Texas & Colorado). To Read more about online (video) sex addiction counseling, click on the image below:
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) Externship
EFT Core Skills Plus Advanced Training (60 Hours)
Restoring Broken Bonds: EFT and Healing Relationship Betrayals
Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (CSAT)
EMDR Levels 1 & 2 Training
Masters Degree in Counseling (MA)
Masters Degree In Business Management (MBA)
Licensed Professional Counselor in both Texas (#80083) and Colorado (#4553)
So…What else about me?
- I’m the fourth child of five siblings from California.
- I love running half marathons and dream about running a full but don’t think that will happen anytime soon.
- I have a great sense of humor (which is often part of my counseling sessions….so be ready to laugh).
- My wife, kids, and I lived 17 years in Denver Colorado before moving to the Round Rock Texas area. My kids are now adults so its just me and my wife (and two dogs and munchkin kitty).
- I have been a Christian my whole life and I am so grateful for the mercy, forgiveness, grace, and love that Jesus continuously gives me!
- We own a Westie Terrier, Yorkie Terrier, and a very white munchkin kitty.
- I love the sunshine, warm weather, and getting up early. I love a cup of coffee first thing in the morning.
- My wife and I dream of visiting Germany and Italy one day.
- I am beyond grateful I get to do what I deeply love. Everyday!
- And my clients inspire me everyday. Their dedication, commitment, and determination leaves me speechless