Practice Empathy

Relationship Assertiveness

Empathy = Less Anger

“The opposite of anger is not calmness, its empathy.” – Mehmet Oz

A major part of Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples is to help each partner practice empathy.  To practice empathy is the ability to “walk in the other person’s shoes.”  In other words, empathy is knowing what the other person is experiencing, feeling, and compassionately responding to another person’s distress. 


(more…)

Read More

Sex Addiction & Attachment

Sex Addiction CounselingSex Addiction & Attachment

I believe that sex addiction counselors need to (re)think about addiction differently than we have in the past. Human beings have been created to possess an inborn need to bond and connect with others. When we are feeling safe, happy and healthy, we will bond with the people around us.

When we don’t feel safe, loved, seen, or soothed; we will turn to something or someone that will give us relief from the pain of loneliness. Relief could be as simple as endlessly checking our smart phones or it might be pornography, video games, social media, gambling, or drugs. We will bond with something because that is our human nature. (more…)

Read More

Questions Finding Sex Addiction Counselor

anger management counselor round rock texasQuestions Finding Sexual Addiction Therapist

Finding a counselor who is knowledgeable about sexual addiction is critical and often counselors will label themselves as “specialists” but have never received specialized training in sex addiction.  We have heard many disappointed clients share their negative initial experiences with a therapist that had only book knowledge of sex addiction.

(more…)

Read More

Emotion Powers Relationships

Emotionally Focused Couples Counseling Austin Texas

Emotionally Focused Therapy

Couples stick together because of the bond that they make to each other. Over the life of the relationship, partners form emotional connections that organize and prioritize their lives.


(more…)

Read More

Mindfulness Recovery

Mindfulness Recovery Round Rock Counseling

Mindfulness Recovery

Mindfulness is becoming a normal part of recovery, especially in sexual addiction recovery treatment centers. Many who are not familiar with mindfulness may ask the question, “What exactly is mindfulness?” One definition is the ability to be aware of your thoughts, emotions, physical sensations, and actions in the present moment without judging or criticizing yourself or your experience. (more…)

Read More

Defining Sexual Addiction

Defining Sexual Addiction Counseling Round Rock Texas

Defining sexual addiction

Sexual addiction, also referred to as sexual compulsion and sexual dependency can be defined as any sexual activity that feels “out of control”. The sex addict feels compelled to seek out and engage in sexual behavior, in spite of the problems it may cause in their personal, social and work lives. It may encompass any single or multiple type of sexual behavior. In the assessment and defining sexual addiction, its important to start by discussing the sexual behaviors that are out of control. (more…)

Read More

Starting Sexual Addiction Recovery

starting sexual addiction recovery round rock texasBeginning Sexual Addiction Recovery

Most sex addicts are unwilling to admit that they are a sex addict and refuse to begin sexual addiction recovery. Just like anyone, they too like to think that they are different from other sex addicts. It is not surprising that most men that struggle with sexual addiction have histories of countless vain attempts to prove that they can stop and/or control their sexual behaviors on their own. (more…)

Read More